Another soccer season has gone by in my career as a high school soccer coach. Unfortunately, our season ended with a loss. Fortunately, for me at least, I didn’t end up like the guy in this photo!
I have coached swimming since I was in college so coaching boys soccer is a HUGE change for me. But I loved the challenge and look forward to doing it again. Coaching high school boys soccer is a great primer for having teenage boys of my own. It may be pretty far away, but it is going to come fast.
With team sports, you have two things to worry about. You have to coach strategy with the strengths and weaknesses of your players. You also have to coach the individuals to improve their strengths. Each player had some personality or attitude characteristics that we worked on in addition to the skills.
One player started the season frightened of making his peers angry with him. He would let his teammates give him lip without defending himself. I encouraged him to stand up for himself and it translated to stronger performances during the games. He knocked over several people in the game while going for the ball and then turned around and helped them up. Great sportsmanship!!
Another player was on the verge of becoming a team leader. The team respected his skills and experience but he didn’t feel comfortable addressing the team so he would share his observations with me. I started by asking him if he would share with the group. After he became comfortable with that, I would just tell the group that he had something to add. Positive leadership is something my team really needed and I hope that he will continue his growth and become the leader he is capable of being.
I worked with each player so that they could grow in a way that would help the team, but each player worked to develop a skill that would help in their own lives too. Despite a losing record, I am thrilled with what we accomplished. But we need to win some games next year!!

